About unfaithfulness among foreign men.

Katarina K, Norway

I would like to discuss a subject of men’s faithfulness.

But first, I think it’s better to tell a bit about myself. Just shortly, I am 25 years old, from Ukraine and I live in Norway for 2 years now. I love my husband a lot, and very happy in my marriage and life is good for me.

Now back to the subject of my story. Here, abroad, a situation with men’s unfaithfulness differs from situation in Russia or Ukraine. As I know, among my and my husband’s friends, my Russian friends in the school where I learn Norwegian language and my colleges at work, such conception as faithlessness, in compare with Russian and Ukraine, in Norway is almost absent.

I can’t tell about other Western countries, though I think that in other countries situation is the same. I just want to tell that men’s unfaithfulness in Norway is not a life standard.

But in Russia or Ukraine…. Do you remember words from a song “…he has to have a mistress by rules…”?

In Russia or Ukraine, if a man achieved anything in life, if he has a good work, house, beautiful wife, he JUST HAS TO HAVE A MISTRESS. He just HAS TO; otherwise in the eyes of his friend he is not a man. For everybody who will not agree with me I will answer – yes, in some way you are right and there are good and decent men as well. But in general, unfortunately we have too many disreputable men.

Here, in the Western world, to have a mistress is just UNMORAL AND NO PRESTIGE.  This is law status, bottom of a society. In the company of friends or colleges nobody will be bragging of having a one-night stand. Nobody will approve it, just opposite. When we see in the American “soap operas” that everybody is sleeping around… this is just cheep movies that have nothing in common with a reality.

Americans, Norwegians or other men treasure family and their reputation. They love their wives, help at home, and take care about family and children. And if somebody doesn’t love wife, at least they respect her as woman and mother of their kids.

Many men here have pictures of their families on the working desks. And no respectable business man will risk spoiling his reputation because of a one-night stand or extramarital relations.

Of course there are unfaithful men here as well, but individuals, or just unlucky persons, who didn’t success in life. Or some exceptions to the rules, like American multimillionaire Donald Tramp.

I want to repeat - its individuals in compare with Russia or Ukraine. And besides, here men are more careful if they are having an affair (finding a woman in another city, etc.).

And no wonder, that foreign men think that Russian women are jealous. This is probably because we accustomed to unfaithfulness so much, that even without thinking we have a thought in mind – maybe he is the same way? Maybe he will get an affair?

I think only women who are living here, abroad, will be able to understand me and who had a possibility to compare.

I can tell a lot in defense of “foreign bachelors and husbands”…Maybe there are good and decent men in Russia, maybe it was just me, unlucky and that I didn’t find a man I wanted to get marry there, in Ukraine.. And I am very happy my life developed this way, because now, I am waking up every morning with a kiss from my husband before he is going to work, and I am meeting every new day with a smile and joy.

I wish you the same,

Sincerely,

Katarina K, Norway